About Movie

Do you know why the best boyfriend breakup excuses seem to be completely inadequate? It's because they are inadequate. You owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to offer real reasons for the end of the relationship rather than trite excuses and platitudes that offer no closure and no hope for future relationships.

I bet you're wondering why the best boyfriend breakup excuses don't work, right? There are three good reasons that they do little to make the situation better and can often make things even worse between the two of you.

1) Boyfriend breakup excuses sound insincere. You've probably heard the old "it's not you; it's me" excuse in dozens of movies and it always sounds about as sincere and heart felt as someone ordering his or her 12th cup of coffee for the day (really after five or so is the caffeine going to keep you any more awake?). Don't use the excuses everyone else is giving. Instead go for honesty and give real reasons. Even if you've found someone else it's kinder than allowing him to think it's all his fault. If it is something that he's doing that's pushing you away telling him now may save future relationships for him. It may even force him to change his ways and open the door for a future together with him.

2) Excuses to breakup with your boyfriend won't soften the blow. Too often we turn to these excuses in hopes of making it easier on him. That is rarely the case. Even brutal honesty trumps a "canned" response that offers no insight as to why the relationship ended (though this is by no means encouraging you to be brutal). The end is going to sting no matter how much you sugar coat it. You may as well give him the courtesy of an honest response when he asks why. It will help him find closure much more quickly and spare him endless hours of searching and second guessing for the real reason it ended.

3) Wouldn't you want the same? If the tables were turned and you were the one being dumped wouldn't you rather know the real reason rather than some drummed up excuse? It's a small price to pay to give him the same peace of mind you would hope for if the roles were reversed and one that is well worth paying.