Showing posts with label honesty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label honesty. Show all posts

3 Things on How to Get Your Girlfriend Back

In the movies women are often portrayed as someone who is complex especially when it comes to relationships. This is in general is the perception of men towards women - Remember the book "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus?" a whole book trying to explain the differences of men versus women with the objective of allowing both genders to understand each other. People read this with the premise that maybe just maybe they would be able to understand their partners or try and keep their current relationships. For other men maybe knowing how women are will be able to help them get their lost relationships back. Truth is getting your girlfriend back is not as complex as you think.

Let me start with the core principle of being honest. Do not hold back; lay down the cards albeit in a tactful way. Being honest does not mean that you have the license to use hurtful words of course crude words will not get you anywhere but telling the truth in a gentlemanly manner or with tact will surely get you to somewhere and that somewhere is mostly being able to understand one another. Hand in hand with honesty is keeping communication lines open. This is very simple do not forget to TALK with your girlfriend, a sit down with your ex in a common ground such as a coffee shop or a restaurant combined with honesty can lead to a good friendship at the end of the day. Women like to talk, they best express themselves through words wanting to be able to reach out to our partners and be understood. Lastly do not forget to show that you care and respect her by respecting her decisions and listening to her thoughts.

At the end of the day when you've decided to try and get back your girlfriend you should be able to acknowledge the reasons behind the break-up in the first place. I am pretty sure that your ex-girlfriend has so much to say about the situation. At the end of the day women are not nearly as complex as how the society has painted us to be. Simple honesty, respect and listening with your heart can do a lot of magic not only to get your girlfriend back but to sustain your relationships as well.

C'est La Vie - French Lessons For Sales Negotiators

So what is your view of the the French? Is your view of this magnificent county and its people shaped by those Inspector Clouseau movies that you used to watch while you were growing up? If it was, then it's time to get over it and move on - they negotiate much differently than you do.

As with all things in sales negotiations, there is no right or wrong as long as you are able to eventually reach a successful conclusion to your sales negotiations. The trick when dealing with the French is to realize that they approach negotiations differently than either Americans or British do.

There are two key characteristics that every sales negotiator needs to know when dealing with French negotiators. The first is HOW they approach sales negotiations, and the second is HOW they view concessions.

In all honesty, we Americans always seem to be in a rush when we enter in to a negotiation - we work from the bottom up. We pick the first point, try to hammer out an agreement, and then move on to the next point. The French have a completely different approach - if I had to use a 50 cent word I'd call it a more "holistic" approach.

The French prefer to work on a sales negotiation from the top down. They'll try to reach agreement on the basis of some broad principles first, and spend time working out the details. While they are working out the details, they will constantly refer back to the central agreement on the broad principles. Since you start from a point of agreement, it always seems like the rest of the work is just sorting out the details and that an agreement will eventually be reached.

When it comes to concessions, the French have a very strong sense of quid-pro-quo: they always want to get something in return. Unlike Americans, the French have no problems tying strings to their concessions - you are going to have to give something up if you want to get them to give in on a point.

There you have it, it is possible to reach a successful sales negotiation deal when the other side of the table is French. You just have to remember that their approach to the negotiation and to concessions will be different than yours and you are going to have to change to make the deal work out.